Divorce is stressful enough. Don’t make it worse by fighting with your soon-to-be-ex over emotionally charged tweets, a destroyed car or a shopping spree you took with their credit card. When you are in the midst of a divorce, put your desire to get revenge on a cheating spouse on ice. Your vengeful actions could harm your children, your family — and your divorce case.
Here are four hot buttons you should resist pushing:
Social Media Slam – Emotionally charged tweets and posts leave a trail of landmines that can harm your credibility in court. Judges pay close attention to what you say in your social media feed during a divorce or child custody battle. If your intent is to shame or harm the other person, even by sharing factual information, the posting looks as bad for the poster as it does for its intended target in the eyes of the judge.
Revenge Porn – Posting intimate photos or videos of your soon-to-be-ex on Facebook or YouTube or wherever is more than wrong — it’s stupid. “As Rob Kardashian and Blac Chyna now know — once it’s out there, it’s out there,” says Leischner. Revenge-seekers be warned: family law courts aren’t taking this lightly. Maliciously posting or selling a video or photo that shows the person totally nude or in a state of undress with the intent to coerce, harass or intimidate is a Class 1 misdemeanor in Virginia.
Credit Card Splurge – It might give you instant satisfaction to go on a shopping spree with your spouse’s plastic, but vengeful buying could leave you liable for the bill, even if you use a joint card. Using your spouse’s individually owned card without permission is illegal, so you could face criminal prosecution.
Destroy Their Car – You’ve heard the story before: crazy ex destroys cheating spouse’s prized possession. Vengeful property destruction might produce a temporary smile, but it’s sure to end in a long-lasting pout when the bill comes due. Cars and other major assets can be considered marital property, to which both spouses have an equal claim in a divorce. Think of the shared price tag before swinging that bat.